It’ OK To Take An Online Break

One of the wonderful things that has come from living with a chronic disease is finding new networks and friends in the chronic illness community.

Before becoming disabled and unable to work, I had no idea about blogging and online support forums and believe it or not I never even had a Facebook account.

Fast forward to today and I am now fully entrenched in a whole new world of blogging network groups and online support groups, either as an active member or as an administrator/owner. Not to forget Twitter accounts , Pinterest and  Facebook pages linked to my blog, my personal Facebook account, writing for The Mighty and other publications.

All of a sudden my sedentary, chronically diseased life, looks more like it did when I was working full time in an Executive Management role.

From morning ’til night I am involved in some way in one of these online activities. I love it. There is no denying that. I love sharing, learning and supporting. However, even when you enjoy something there is still the danger of overload and burnout.

I have to constantly rest my body because of my physical disability but what about my mind? Do I rest that enough?

I asked myself that question this morning  and very honestly answered, “No, I don’t”.

I wonder how many others in the chronic illness community who are bloggers/writers, administrators or active members of support groups, are feeling like their minds are just a little too full of chatter?

As I “quietly “mused upon that question, clarity began to surface.

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It’s ok to switch off. It’s ok to have a “chronic illness” free day each week. In fact to do so will mean that you will add more value to conversations the following day. You’ll approach situations with better clarity.

It’s ok not to blog for a week or two.

It’s ok to step aside from forums that you perhaps feel are not right for you anymore or they have just served their purpose.

It’s ok to say “No” if asked to be involved in something new within the chronic illness community that would just over stretch you.

It’s ok to commit to one or two things solely and just give them your all. In fact it’s probably better to do that.

Switch off your phone, tablet, laptop. Listen to the quietness when you do that. Take a deep breath and just enjoy that moment when you let your mind rest from the social media world.

Ahhh…it’s so refreshing. Clarity is a wonderful thing.

I’m going to make some changes. I love my forum and that’s my number one priority. I do though need a day off once a week and I’m going to take it. No set day as I want the freedom to go with the flow a little, after all I’m medically retired so surely the regimented lifestyle should be a thing of the past.

I want more time to quietly write. Writing helps me relax. For me it is a reflective process but when there is too much filling my mind it’s hard to listen to any inspirational ideas that might be lurking in the recesses of my brain. Thinking  time is essential for clarity to emerge and writers block to be broken.

So I shall still happily emmerse myself in the chatter of the chronic illness networks and communities that I love. However, I will now also be making every effort to ensure I take time out each week, to clear my mind and enjoy some clarity of thoughts.

If you are feeling like your blogging or online work is overwhelming you, I’d encourage you to switch off for a moment. Think about how you can better manage your time and involvement in social media activities and  networks.

Assess what’s working for you. Is it still relevant to your needs? Do you need to make changes? Is it adversely affecting your health?

Give yourself permission to seek some quiet space. I’m so glad I have. It has been such a refreshing experience to have a reality check and make changes to how I manage my writing commitments, my blog and forum.

I still haven’t quite got online/real life balance right yet but I’m on the right track and that’s got to be a good start.

Take care

Sam xx

 

If you’re looking for genuine support, care, understanding & friendship, you are so welcome to join my closed Facebook support forum, Medical Musings with Friends . It’s a safe place to connect with others living with chronic & complex diseases, who truly understand the daily challenges. A warm welcome awaits.

I’m a Contributor at “The Mighty”. You can check out my published articles at My Author Page

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14 thoughts on “It’ OK To Take An Online Break

  1. I think you are truly amazing and thank you for this post – I agree, I’m full of clutter and clatter and too often don’t get that “space”, mentally and physically, even though I need to. But I totally agree about the support and friendships and people “met” online and in the blogging community, which are fantastic. Sending hugs your way Sam.
    Caz x

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  2. Thanks Caz. It’s just an ongoing balancing act isn’t it. I’m glad it resonated with you too. Look after yourself. You do a wonderful job with your blogging & networking 💗xx

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  3. What a great post Sam! I’ve discovered lately that I’m spending more and more time on “blog stuff,” which I love, but I’ve also set aside one day a week to just take the day off. I need to have some quiet time in which to reflect and reset. Thanks for a wonderful post!

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  4. Thanks Terri, it’s amazing isn’t it how the very thing you love can quickly become the very thing that is exhausting you. I’m glad you’re also taking a day off a week. That’s great encouragement for me to do the same. Thank you xx 💗

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    1. I’m so glad I’m not alone in feeling like this Sheryl. I love your Oct prompts. Spotify is brilliant & it’s my “go to” when I remove myself from the social media chatter. Music is absolutely key to settling my mind & helping me relax. Xx

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  5. Oh you are so right!! I seldom allow my brain to rest and get away ‘to a quiet place’ and regain some clarity. God could be thumping me on the head right about now, to remind me of this. While recovering from cancer/chemo, I often had to give myself permission to take a day off even when I had already made the plans to do otherwise. Undoing was a constant thing; make a date with gal pals, postpone the date with said pals.
    Fortunately, God is a much better manager than I am. Even if he has to thump me on the head now and then. Thanks for this well written perspective. and Lord bless you with healing and strength!

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    1. Thanks so much for commenting April. It’s so easy to think we are resting well when chronically ill/disabled but in actual fact we’ve replaced physical running around with mental running around. I’m glad I’m not the only one. God bless you through your health journey too xx

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