When All Else Fails….Just Cancel The Day

I love life’s little challenges. I love problem solving and turning obstacles into opportunities.

I love putting positive spins on what would otherwise be a very negative situation. I’ve done that all my life, both in my personal life and my working life.

So, chronic disease really wasn’t going to change that about me. It’s just another of life’s challenges. Right?

Well sort of right! It’s probably one of the more difficult challenges that life has thrown at me and it often requires strategies that I wouldn’t normally employ.

One Thing After Another

When I can stick to what I call my Chronic Disease Management Plan, life has a stable flow, despite the unpredictable nature of my disease.

The flow consists of routine daily activities, rest, activities, rest. Pretty simple. It works for me. It’s very limited physically and it’s a home bound routine but as I’ve written about many times, I’m at peace with it and I’ve accepted this new way of life.

Sometimes it doesn’t matter how much we try and pace activity and rest, there will be periods of time when circumstances are outside of our control.

I’ve had a fortnight of one thing after another coming my way. These things weren’t  planned and couldn’t be avoided.

It was like looking at an avalanche moving with full force towards me, knowing I needed to run in the opposite direction but being stuck with legs that wouldn’t move fast enough.

Facing The Avalanche

So when things are really outside of your control you simply have to deal with them as best you can. You have to face it and try to move through it while constantly hoping and praying that a crisis doesn’t eventuate. A crisis that could quite likely land you in hospital.

My avalanche included extra necessary medical appointments which resulted in extra tests and scans over a number of days. All were taxing on me physically and all greatly impacted my “normal” daily schedule that I need to follow to cope with my pain levels and disease symptoms.

The problem with chronic disease is that you can’t just catchup after a glitch in your routine. Believe me I’ve tried. I’ve often thought that one day of complete rest will make all the difference.

One day of rest when chronically ill doesn’t really do much at all.

Drawing A Line In The Sand

At some point, once the avalanche of unplanned and unavoidable activities are over, you have to fully assess the damage.

I’m my own worst enemy when it comes to doing this. I’ve accepted my daily rest periods are now part of my life but I hate having to stop completely.

So my initial plan was to reinstate my “Chronic Disease Management Plan” and return to my normal daily routine.

Ha…well that clearly wasn’t going to work.

So my next step was to try increasing the length of my rest periods for a couple of days.

No, that didn’t work either.

It was time to draw the line in the sand. Time to wave the white flag and retreat…literally!

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I’m Sorry, Today Is Cancelled

I had some other appointments looming as a new week approached and I could feel my avalanche crisis beginning to gain further momentum.

I began juggling my daily schedule to wake up later, go to bed earlier, increase pain medication, put all household tasks on hold.

All were bandaid solutions and not the strategy I needed to employ to rectify my situation and get back to my base disease level of operandi.

Out of the blue I received two phone calls advising that appointments needed to be re-scheduled for various reasons.

What a relief. I’m sure I sounded way too happy on the phone when one caller told me she needed to cancel due to a migraine. I felt so bad about that afterwards. Oops!

As I sat in my armchair, letting the fact that I now had the gift of time waft over me, it became clear what I needed to do.

I needed to cancel the day. Do nothing, plan nothing, just withdraw.

There is always the temptation, when appointments are cancelled, to fill the time with other tasks. I couldn’t afford to do that even though my head was full of  great ideas. My body was screaming at me. I had to listen to it.

Once I committed to cancelling the day and resting, really resting, I realized this was going to be a longer term strategy. I needed more than one day. Two weeks of damage could not be undone in one day.

I had 4 days ahead with no medical appointments. My window of opportunity was there. I could ignore it or be sensible.

I chose to be sensible. Well, I like to think I chose but in actual fact I really had no choice.

Chronic Disease has one non negotiable rule……look after yourself. To do otherwise is pure folly.

So if life has got too crazy, too busy and your disease is flaring out of control, it’s really simple….

When all else fails, cancel the day. Cancel a few days. Take the time you need to recover and get back on track.

Most importantly, please don’t feel guilty about cancelling the day. It’s not your fault. You are absolutely doing the right thing.

Take care

Sam xx

 

If you’re looking for genuine support, care, understanding & friendship, you are so welcome to join my closed Facebook support forum, Medical Musings with Friends . It’s a safe place to connect with others living with chronic and complex diseases, who truly understand the daily challenges. A warm welcome awaits.

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12 thoughts on “When All Else Fails….Just Cancel The Day

  1. Ok, so, Sam,

    Sometimes I take the energy to open my laptop, read your post, and click on like.

    But in reality, I could just click on LIKE to everything you write! You speak for so many of us, and I’m sure we’d all agree that though your condition is probably far worse than what most of us are going through, our days still affect us the same, and your approach is always good advice!

    So, I want to thank you, not only for myself, but for all of those others who appreciate you as much, but at the moment don’t have the where-with-all to say so! That’s one word where I come from, LOL.

    ❤ ❤ ❤ Your friend Tish in USA

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    1. Tish, that is just so beautiful and encouraging. You have made my day. Thank you so much. Thank you for reading my blog too. I know how much energy it takes to follow so many amazing chronic illness bloggers so every “like” just means so much and I know commenting takes extra energy. God bless you…Your friend Sam from Aus 💞💞

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  2. Amen. My illness has made me more authentic. I ration what I do to reflect whats important to me. Now retired I see maybe three women i knew during my career. Life and seasons change. Id rather have lunch w family or close friends than wear out when the occassion doesnt fuel my spirit. And btw. Today was rescheduled to a home joy day. Good stuff.

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    1. Thanks so much Jacqueline. I love that your day today is scheduled as a home joy day!! What perfect timing. Thanks so much for your encouraging comment. Sam 💞💞

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    1. I so understand Claire. It’s crazy isn’t it that we accept our illness but mentally still struggle to adapt to its restrictions. It’s just not easy. Thinking of you 💞

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