“Life is too short, take nothing for granted”
These are catch phrases we have probably allowed to roll off our tongues at one time or another.
Both have so much meaning and I hazard a guess, a slightly different meaning for all of us.
On my Facebook Support Group, we have a weekly segment called “Thankful Thursday”. Members share a few things they are grateful for in their lives, in that moment, day or week.
It sounds easy enough but all of our members suffer from debilitating chronic illness. It can be incredibly hard not to be overcome by pain and symptoms.
Nevertheless, we do all find something good in our lives to share and celebrate. It’s a lovely uplifting segment that I look forward to each week.
As I was contemplating the things I was grateful for this week, I realised I was really struggling to honestly feel grateful at all.
Am I Grateful Or Am I Taking Things For Granted?
I’m absolutely exhausted with my constant pain levels. I know I’m mostly housebound but life is still way too busy.
I spend a good 40 hours a week on my Forum. I write, I network with other bloggers, spend time with my husband, do household tasks and look after our finances etc. Pretty much a full-time job while living with a debilitating disease.
I’m incredibly grateful that I can do all of the above. So grateful that I can use my mind as it helps distract me from my physical pain.
In that moment as I was thinking about my exhaustion and all that I was juggling, I realised there was something I was most grateful for. It was something I never want to take for granted.
A “Mind Full” Moment
My mind, my brain, my ability to think. I am so grateful for it but even more than that…..I found myself saying;
“ I want to use my mind while I can, I don’t want to take it for granted. I may not always have it”
Right there, right then, I felt every depth of gratefulness for being able to use my brain. Not just intellectually but in many other ways.
I can dream, I can remember wonderful moments in my past. I can manage my disease better by thinking through the consequences of my actions.
I can write, I can sing. I can enjoy TV shows because my brain allows me to follow story lines.
I can have lengthy chats with my husband while relaxing together.
I can make phone calls and organise household administrative tasks.
I can read and research.
I negotiate my health care and work in partnership with my medical team.
All of this and more is because my mind, my brain functions.
Loss Causes Us To Re-Evaluate Everything
There are many things in my life that I don’t take for granted and many that I do and shouldn’t. We all do though.
- I didn’t ever really consider losing the use of my legs but I have.
- I didn’t ever really consider losing my independence but I have.
- I didn’t ever consider losing my taste and smell but on most days I have lost both of these senses.
- I didn’t think I would ever have a permanent colostomy but I do.
Loss definitely causes us to re-evaluate everything. It’s not a bad thing, especially if it leads us to focusing on what we still have.
My gratitude for having a functioning mind is huge. There’s an underlying reason for that.
My beautiful Grandmother died from Alzheimer’s Disease and one of my Aunties is currently battling this insidious disease.
Does that mean I’m likely to also have the disease later in life? Who knows. It does however make me so aware of the gift of a functioning mind and that makes me never want to take it for granted.
Gratefully Take Nothing For Granted
I remember having viral pneumonia, 6 months before I was to be married, many, many years ago. I was in hospital and my parents and fiance had been told my Specialists were incredibly concerned as I wasn’t responding to any treatment.
I was so focused mentally on getting well for my upcoming wedding, I didn’t for one moment consider not surviving.
What did concern me was that I couldn’t speak at all. I had never lost my voice like that before. As a singer my main concern was would I ever be able to sing again. I was also a Bank Manager at the time so talking was pretty important too.
I eventually recovered but it took 3 months for my voice to return. It was a scary time and from that moment on I have never taken my voice for granted.
If you are struggling with your chronic disease and finding it really hard to find anything to be grateful for, think about what you can still do. What part of your body is still working?
Think about what it would be like if that part of you ceased to work.
It won’t be long before you have something very tangible to be grateful for. Something that you will realise you can’t ever take for granted.
Before long you too will be gratefully taking nothing for granted.
Take care
Sam 💞
Bible Verse
When times are good, be joyful;
When times are bad, consider this:
God made the one as well as the other, so people won’t seek anything outside of his best.Ecclesiastes 7 v 14 (ISV)
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Brilliant post with some encouraging reading to inspire others 🙂
I’ve featured in this mornings #chronicillnessVOICE Sam will be live by 9am… hopefully!
Wishing you wellness as always my friend ~ Carole Sian aka fibrofly73
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Thanks so much Carole 💞
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Absolutely beautiful article, Sam. I truly agree that loss causes us to re-evaluate life. Of late, I I have been practising mindfulness. By that, I just mean being mindful of all the good in my life as well as being realistic of the limitations with my health. I can’t tell you how much it’s helped. Despite living in such pain everyday, I sometimes feel this has made me view life like I never did and made me filled with gratitude for so many things that I never realised before. A decent voice and a bigger love to sing, my church and it’s ever strong community, have friends throughout my life and continuing to make more, the gift of a powerful mind that has taken me through so much and emerged triumphant, The gift of writing (I only use Instagram but will soon shift to blogs) that I never knew I had and enjoyed and so many many more.
Thank you for all that you do!
Lots of love, Sonali
Ps- send me your mailing address please. I want to send a card.
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Thanks so much Sonali. I’m so excited that your going to start blogging. Can’t wait to read your work. You are doing so well adjusting to life with chronic illness. Lots of love xx
PS: I’ll email you my address
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So so true and very inspiring. Thankyou Sam this is something I will definitely add to my ‘toolkit’ x x x x
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Thanks so much Esther. Lots of love xx
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Sam sometimes I forget about what I can still do. Thanks for the timely reminder. Love your writing as usual.
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Thank you Anne xx
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Dear Sam, Another post I am printing for my bulletin board. You speak words of wisdom to so many of us. I am grateful. Sincerely, Marla
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Thanks so much Marla❤
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This is such a fantastic post Sam. It’s a great reminder that even during those times we don’t feel particularly grateful, we can find things to be thankful for.
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Thanks so much Terri ❤
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This was an incredible and very true post. Definitely a great reminder to focus on what we are thankful for in our short life.
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Thanks so much Alyssa 💞
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You are very welcome!
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Such profound truth here today. Take nothing for granted. I too can take my thinking for granted until I get a migraine. That’s when it hurts to think. I’m ever so grateful for clarity of mind afterwards. Thank you for this!
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Thanks so much for your encouragement Natalie. I really appreciate it 💞💞
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Fantastic post Sam, I often focus on what I have lost but I know deep down that I still have so, so much to be grateful for. Thank you for reminding me on a day that my fatigue has been particularly bad! Your positivity helps so much xx
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Thank you so much for your encouragement 💞
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