A “Hallmark Moment”….. In Chronic Illness Style

I love celebrating special occasions. I’m a real “Hallmarks moment” kind of girl. Always have been and I suspect I always will be.

Cakes, balloons, lots of presents and good food. I love making the person who is celebrating their special day, feel like they are the most important and loved person in the world.

You would think I would realise that those days may be a bit beyond my reach now, wouldn’t you?

I should know, after 4 years with a progressive bone disease, mind over matter really doesn’t work. However, I seem to suffer amnesia when I begin to day dream about what I’d like to do.

I Can Do This…Can’t I?

As my husband’s birthday approaches each year, I try to convince myself I will be a picture of perfect health and energy, for just that one day.

I love him so much, there is no way I am not going to try to make the day extra special.

The fact I have broken femurs, broken feet and stress fractures riddled throughout my body is just too bad!! Surely I can just push through it all. (We all know I’m being delusional at this point).

He does so much for me each and every day. This is his moment to be pampered and have a day of treats and hopefully a rest. As a full-time carer he definitely deserves that.

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The Idealistic Plan

Our first plan is always to go out for lunch, and we pretend in the lead up to his birthday we will be doing that. We pick the restaurant or cafe, check out the menu online and get excited.

We do this knowing it most likely won’t be able to happen. The effort for me to get out will spoil the day. By the time I get to a cafe I’m so exhausted it’s hard to talk, let alone make it feel special for my husband.

We know that at least at home I can pace the day and have the energy to get through all I want to do for him. At home I can lie down for 10 minutes here and there whenever I need to recharge a little.

The Realistic Plan

The reality is we won’t be going out for lunch. We’ll stay home and make sure that the day will focus on enjoying simple, special moments together.

I will be determined to make a great lunch, with my husband as my kitchen hand. Instead of a restaurant we will sit in our courtyard and both agree it is the nicest café we have been in for ages…even if we do say so ourselves!!

My husband will open a nice bottle of red he’s been saving for the day. I don’t drink due to my medication but I love seeing him savour every sip.

After lunch we’ll watch a movie on DVD, in “Gold Class” style, in the comfort of our lounge room.

We’ll drink coffee and enjoy a slice of birthday cake and perhaps indulge with a box of chocolates.

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The Perfect “Hallmark Day”

It will be a really lovely day, just the two of us. It will be quiet in so many ways in comparison to what most people would consider a celebration.

It will be so special though as it will be full of love……our “Hallmark moment”.

No actually it will be our “Hallmark Day”.

Even though it will take me days to recover from something so quiet and simple, it will be worth every moment.

I will definitely be gearing up same time next year to do it all again for the man I love so much and who cares for me so beautifully every single day.

Happy Birthday Sweetheart 💝

Sam xxxx

1 Corinthians 13:13
Faith, Hope and Love, but the greatest of these is Love. 

 

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20 thoughts on “A “Hallmark Moment”….. In Chronic Illness Style

  1. Sam, What a lovely celebration of his birthday. Although, I can bet he thinks his marriage to amazing you is a gift! A bow on you would likely be a delight. Glad you two enjoyed the time. Sincerely, Marla

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    1. Thanks so much Alyssa. It was a lovely day. I’m so sorry you are not feeling the best at the moment. Sending love and hugs and hoping you’ll begin to feel a little better soon xx

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  2. Your ‘hallmark day’ sounds perfect. It’s a lot like what my hubby and I like to do on our special days. I think it’s great when a couple just loves spending time with each other, because that’s what really makes it special.

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  3. It can be hard accepting the ideal isn’t realistic, and yet acknowledging it and working with the situation releases so much pressure and expectations and lets you focus on what’s truly important. I love the “Gold Class” part – movies at home where you can get comfy, have snacks to hand, pause to go wee whenever you like (a big bonus in my books!) are the best. Thoughtfulness, appreciation and love = A beautiful Hallmark Day indeed – wishing your husband a very Happy Birthday! 🙂
    Caz xx

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