A Cheerful Approach To A Chronic Situation

 

A cheerful look brings joy to the heart, and good news health to the bones. Proverbs 15:30

It’s a gorgeous morning. The sun is shining, the birds are singing.

I can hear children playing in the local schoolyard and a cool gentle breeze is blowing through my bedroom window.

I’m resting on my bed in the hope that my broken bones will soon cease screaming at me. Pain meds will take the edge off eventually and I’ll be able to stand long enough to sort out my stoma and get dressed for the day.

Sometimes You Just Have To Laugh

I’m not going anywhere today. I am pretty much housebound every day. Despite that I still like to dress as if I have something special to do.

Smart casual is my style…or it is now. It used to be corporate suits with high-heeled shoes. I miss that but I quite like my new wardrobe.

Everything has elasticated waists for comfort and ease of wear, plus that works better sitting over my stoma. I like slightly fitted, tunic style tops over 3/4 length bengaline pants. Both have to easily pull on and off and be made of slightly stretchy material to allow me to move freely.

The pants hug my legs a little, as this provides my broken bones extra support when I stand. A bit like bandages. So there is a slight method to my madness of getting dressed like this each day.

I’ve learned the hard way when it’s come to reinventing my wardrobe. My husband and I have been known to cut me out of tops that haven’t stretched, as I couldn’t pull my arms in the right direction to get out of them.

Sad….but oh so funny. On those occasions, through tears of laughter, I’ve managed to give my husband clear cutting directions while I’ve been stuck in the top. A great trust exercise!! Thankfully no one has been harmed during such a procedure. His handiwork has been so good, after each “surgical removal”, I’ve been able to turn the top into a jacket. Bonus!

You really do just have to sit back and laugh sometimes at such a ludicrous  situation.

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Letting A Cheerful Heart Emerge

Today and everyday I’m enjoying what I can do, rather than thinking about the things I can’t do.

It’s not easy.

A concerted effort over time was needed to change my mindset but it was well worth the effort. It’s always worth the effort.

That moment when the focus shifts to the possible, rather than looking at the impossible, is a life changing moment. It’s the moment a cheerful heart has room to emerge.

Don’t get me wrong, dreaming of the impossible, holding onto hopes and dreams, believing they can happen, is also important at times.

But when the very basics of life are verging on the impossible every day, a dose of reality and being grateful for what you can do, is so important.

A Chronic Situation

I’ve had a really tough few months with some bad news on the health front.

Among other things I’ve recently been diagnosed with Gastroparesis. I’ve also recently been reminded by my medical team, my rare bone disease is progressing and there is no treatment and no cure.

I’ve been reminded no further surgery can even be considered as I am such a high risk for permanent complications or worse.

I’ve been reminded by my Orthopaedic Specialist, my bone graft in 2016 just dissolved in a month as if it never happened. We are dealing with a rare complex disease that has a mind of it’s own. It’s not following any rules of medical logic.

My left femur is still well and truly broken nearly 4 years on from the initial break. It’s now classified as a permanent break. With the progression of my disease, my body is affected from head to toe with various ongoing fractures and muscular atrophy.

I can’t sleep or sit comfortably. Getting in and out of chairs or the car or any movement at all really, causes excruciating pain resulting in debilitating fatigue.

Pain medication only takes the edge off at best. I could increase the medication but it would completely reduce my ability to write, think and support others through my online forum. I would end up both physically and mentally disabled and that’s just not worth it.

It’s a chronic situation and one that requires me to make difficult choices to ensure I am living the best life possible.

The Best Medicine

I’ve needed some encouragement over the past few weeks. It’s can be a bit hard to come by when feeling so overwhelmed with pain and disease.

When the punches keep coming an encouraging word means so much, especially when you are really limited in what you can do.

Encouragement can come from friends and family, even strangers, or from something you’ve read.

A cheerful look brings joy to the heart, and good news health to the bones. Proverbs 15:30

This little proverb was on my calendar and it reminded me how much a cheerful heart really is the best medicine.

It encouraged me and confirmed I am on the right track when I focus on helping others, encouraging others.

I need to keep surrounding myself with things that encourage me and make me happy, so that I’m able to bring ongoing cheer to others.

It’s good medicine to do that. According to the Proverb, it even brings good health to the bones to give a cheerful look!!

So why are my bones so bad you may ask, especially those of you who know me well and know I give cheerful looks constantly?

Well, I don’t think it’s supposed to be literal. It means to give a cheerful look or to be cheerful, gives you a sense of well-being. When battling a chronic disease or dealing with any difficult chapter in your life, that sense of well being is exactly what is needed to help sustain you.

That being said, I did smile and felt very encouraged that the Proverb says “good news brings health to the bones”. A sense of hope flooded my soul and that’s a good thing. We all need hope and as a Christian, I believe and know that my seemingly hopeless situation is well and truly in God’s hands.

If God wants to send me “good news that will bring health to my bones”, then I believe that is absolutely possible.

In fact I do receive the gift of “good health” every day. Each encouraging interaction I have with others or each time I provide encouragement, I have a greater sense of well-being.

Without the good news of a cure or treatment, I am resolved to remain working on having a cheerful heart. It does make a difference to my overall well-being

Giving cheerful looks and encouraging words to others, truly is good medicine.

Take care

Sam x

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16 thoughts on “A Cheerful Approach To A Chronic Situation

  1. Thank you for this, hope is something I am dwelling on at the moment, there’s always hope, a belief for me that there is a higher plan in all this. I can feel very lonely at times living with a brain tumour and a brain injury from my surgery. I look ok on the outside, so people think I am well, but there is a daily battle to get up get on, despite my fatigue, headaches, anxiety and dysfunctional brain, it’s hope that keeps me going. Hope isn’t always the answer we think, it’s not having a perfect life again, it can be bringing hope to others as you do, bringing some kindness to others, despite our own problems. Thanks for sharing
    Joanne

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    1. Joanne, thank you so much for your encouragement and for sharing your story. Looking ok on the outside can be a blessing but can also add to our difficulties can’t it.
      I’m so sorry you are dealing with so much. I agree totally that hope for our future often means hope for a very different future, one that needs to be filled with a new purpose in a new life. I so love your attitude. Take care xx

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  2. I’ve had to learn the hard way about wardrobe changes, too, in the sense of trying to work with a tired body that needs comfort, weight that keeps fluctuating, and a stoma that needs the opposite of apparently all the tops and jeans I owned before. I’m so sorry about your bones, I so wish there was more that can be done. I can’t begin to imagine what the femur is like to live with and how much pain you go through each day, never able to get comfortable. Cultivating a cheerful heart, seeing a light edge to life, a dose of humour and focusing on what we can do rather than what we can’t are so important, yet so incredibly difficult at times. You are one incredible lady, Sam. xxxx

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  3. I am so sorry that you are having a rough time right now, but it is so true that when we shift our focus to the positive instead of the negative it changes everything. I love reading your blog posts so much they remind me to cling to the lord no matter what thank you

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    1. Thank you so much Beverley for your encouraging comment. It really means a lot to know that my writing is bringing comfort on some level to others. Love Sam xx

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  4. Sam, What a sweet perspective from one who understands that our greatest need in life is not physical–it’s spiritual and you hit the nail on the head with this one! ❤ I love that verse, and you have spoken boldly of choosing to have a cheerful heart is not conditional or based on our circumstances. Thanks for sharing!

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