“Do I Get Fries With That?” Dealing With Chronic Illness Side Dishes!

I thought my body couldn’t possibly surprise me anymore. I thought I had a good handle on the reality of my diseases and on so many levels I do!

I wrote a blog post last year, called “Sending The ‘What If’s’ of Life Packing”  It’s all about focusing on “What Is” rather than “What If”.

So how do new health” chapters sneak up on me when I’m so aware of “What is” in my life?

A False Sense of Security

When you’ve been living with chronic illness for a while, I’ve realised it’s easy to be lulled into a false sense of security and familiarity with symptoms and diagnoses.

I’ve made so many huge changes to my life including;

  • medically retiring,
  • selling our home recently and moving into a lifestyle village,
  • utilising all kinds of mobility aids,
  • being approved for a top level Home Care Package (inclusive of permanent residential care if/when I get to that stage).

My list could go on and on but you get the picture.

These are all things indicative of the fact I have serious, debilitating, progressive health issues. I know that. I accept that.

So why do new “What Is” health events hit so hard?

Just Because You Understand, Doesn’t Mean It’s Always Easy

The simple answer is, I’m generally not looking for them.  I certainly don’t want anything new added to my chronic illness list.

I have always been aware my bone disease is progressive but there were factors of it I had forgotten.

I forgot I have a condition called Myositis Ossificans. In layman’s terms I have bone growing in my muscles, particularly my thigh muscles. It is excruciatingly painful and debilitating.

I forgot I have calcified tendonitis in my right hip.

I forgot I have Avascular Necrosis in my hips. Basically my hip bones are breaking down.

I often forget I have Rheumatoid Arthritis and Sjogrens Disease, as my Rare Bone Disease is so consuming.

I knew I had Gastritis and it was getting worse, but last year I received a surprise diagnosis from my Gastroenterologist of Gastroparesis. Very basically it’s a condition that affects the stomach muscles and nerves and prevents proper stomach emptying.

I forgot I had Trigeminal Neuralgia until a recent Dental visit caused a sudden painful flare of this horrid condition.

I’m trying to forget I have a tongue tumour (albeit benign at this stage). It needs reviewing though as it’s not going away.

As my regular readers will know I’m recovering from two rounds of recent lumbar spinal surgery, due to my bone disease attacking my spine. It’s causing severe spinal stenosis. It seems it won’t give up. I’m back on that merry go round of it collapsing in a new way and crippling me again.

Breathe In, Breathe Out

As I lay on my stomach in a CT machine this week, waiting for the Radiology Dr to inject my L4/L5 facet joint on both sides, all I could think is, “here we go again”.

My spine is continuing to collapse in spectacular fashion and neither my Spinal Surgeon or I can keep up with it. He ordered the facet joint injections as a diagnostic test to see if maybe we should try Radiofrequency Neurotomy, rather than more major surgery.

Lying on my stomach reminded me of my stoma and why I can no longer lie this way. It reminded me how both femurs are broken and have rods in them. Turning onto my stomach with a diseased spine and broken legs, not to mention broken feet, took a super human effort.

” Breathe in, breathe out! Breathe in, breathe out! You’ve got this. Breathe in, breathe out! You’ve got this. “

My little mantra slowed down my breathing as I lay in agony. I then began to quietly pray for strength and peace. Before I knew it I was being jabbed with needles. I’d actually fallen asleep! A little miracle needed to get me through the 30 minutes.

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I’ll Have Fries With That!

With Gastritis and Gastroparesis, fries are the last thing I’ll be having, but that catch-phrase sums up perfectly what life is like when dealing with Chronic Illness.

Our primary diseases rarely come on their own. There are usually a selection of side dishes including syndromes, conditions, side effects and related diseases that cause complications and often confusion.

Most of these have a habit of sneaking up on you when you least expect it.  Before you know it you are wondering what happened. Why are you suddenly so much worse than you were? Why has this happened so quickly?

Keep Reviewing The “What Is”

We can’t afford to become complacent. We can’t afford to think that we won’t take a turn for the worse or we won’t progress.

That’s not being pessimistic, it’s being realistic. It’s so important to not stick our heads in the sand when it comes to progressive or relapsing/remitting chronic illness.

So what can we do to keep one step ahead of our diseased bodies?

Surprise, surprise, I do have a few tips.

  1. Keep a symptom diary. If a new symptom occurs or an existing one worsens, I have a 4 day rule (unless it’s clearly an emergency and I need to go to ER). If my symptoms are worrying or still severe after 4 days, I call the appropriate Specialist or see my GP.
  2. Know Your Primary Disease Prognosis.  It can be very easy to be given a diagnosis and be so pleased to know that you are dealing with something with a name, you actually forget to fully research what the disease means in terms of practical living. What changes to your life do you need to make? Is it a progressive disease? What symptoms should you be concerned about? What symptoms are to be expected?
  3. Know Your Disease Side Dishes? What can you expect in terms of related syndromes, conditions and medication side effects. These can be as debilitating, if not more so, than your primary disease.
  4. Don’t Delay Making Adjustments.  What changes can you be ready to make if your disease progresses or relapsesOnce it’s clear your disease is progressing or relapsing, don’t hesitate to make these pre-planned changes. To put these in place as soon as possible, to accommodate new or worsening symptoms, is so important.

Denial Is Disabling

The longer we stay in denial of our changed circumstances, the harder it is to accept that further changes to the way we live may be required.

Denial robs us of the opportunity to forge a better quality of life. Denial exasperates our disability. Acceptance allows us to embrace change with a sense of peace.

If we’ve done our homework on what to expect with our disease progression, the grief process that accompanies change, can be slightly reduced each time we experience the next stage of disability.

None of us want side dishes with our Chronic Diseases but unfortunately they are inevitable at some point.

It’s not easy to face the fact that our disease might be a progressive one.  If it is and we remain in denial about that, we reduce our opportunity to have a life that can still have a sense of well-being, despite our physical restrictions.

Let’s Be Prepared

Be pro-active wherever and whenever you can in your health journey. Don’t let a new “what is” circumstance sneak up on you. Keep vigilant and keep reviewing what’s happening with your disease. Keep checking what is your new reality.

Life will be difficult and hard at times,  especially when further adjustments are required to accommodate disease impacts.

Let’s choose not to make it harder than it needs to be. Let’s be prepared and be one step ahead where we can.

Take care

Sam 💞

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11 thoughts on ““Do I Get Fries With That?” Dealing With Chronic Illness Side Dishes!

  1. Brilliant piece Sam, you are the best role model for healthy thinking.As you said realistic not negative. Keeping records is vital as we do forget and we can also attribute a problem to the wrong source.

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  2. My beautiful Sam,

    Really your journey is Amazingly an adventure from God’s Perspective to Give Light and Positive way of living with so much Debilitative Adventure Of your suffering .

    Our Brave ,Enlightened Sam .

    God Bless you dear and your Primary carer your loving husband .

    As I’m caring for my hubby dying with cancer with my chronic illness enhancing .

    But we live day by day with Suffering . But No One Suffered as much Our Dear Lord Jesus Christ .

    So we suffer with Love and Peace Within .

    With Prayers daily for you Sam from our Prayer Group ladies .

    Amen

    Anna Knight

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  3. Anyone reading this who doesn’t know your story will be floored by how much you have to deal with, and as cliche and corny as it sounds, like are genuinely inspiring, and your posts always resonate with me, as I’m sure they do many others in the chronic illness community. You’ve made such excellent points, especially with how we can’t afford to be complacent. I do still find myself asserting the ‘ignorance is bliss’ policy and I know I need to take a breather and a step back soon to really sort my head out with how I feel about things, like my recent lung issue diagnosis. As you say, new diagnoses can come along out of the blue and being proactive, facing things head on, is the best way to move forward, with our eyes open.
    Caz xx

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    1. Thanks so much Caz for your continued support and encouragement. You are amazing! I’m so sorry you have a new lung diagnosis. Our bodies just don’t know how to play fair sometimes do they. Thinking of you and sending lots of love xx

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  4. Denial is disabling. No doubt about it. So is obsessing. I can say that because i suffer from both. I went almost 7 years without seeing a doctor for diabetes. Oh I took my insulin, but I did not have time (yeah right). The damage was awful, but the denial kept me going.

    I was so worried about diabetes eye disease I did not see an eye doctor for over 15 years. Yeah dumb, When I finally saw one, my eyes were fine. So much for obsessing about bad things.

    Your blog is like you are writing as if you are inside my mind. Many blessings Sam !!!

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    1. Thanks Rick for reading and sharing your beautiful insights into the battles we have in coming to terms with our diseases. It’s just not easy is it!

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