You Don’t Have To See The Whole Staircase!


2021 is literally around the corner!

A new year awaits. Will it be a good year, a difficult year, a happy year, a sad year?

One thing is certain, none of us really know.

This time last year, none of us knew how challenging 2020 would be. I doubt a rampant, infectious virus, creating a global pandemic, was forefront on our minds. The year has read more like a movie script rather than real life. The kind of script you feel relieved is fiction.

It’s not fiction though. It’s so very real and, as we close 2020, please join me in taking time to remember lives lost as a result of this horrific disease.

As I look back over my life, every year has had highs and lows. Mostly my life has been exciting and exhilarating. Yes, even the past 11 years fall into that category despite my health failing me.

Each year, no matter my circumstances, new and exciting opportunities have always presented and I have had a sense of purpose.

As I approach this new year, I feel like I am lacking that sense of anticipation I usually have. Maybe because I’m in ridiculous pain due the progression of my bone disease.

Maybe because I’m entering the New Year feeling so exhausted before it even starts.

Maybe because it just feels like more of the same lies ahead.

Maybe because everything about my future just feels so uncertain, and the reality is my body traps me in a world where I can’t make plans for today, let alone the year ahead.

There’s a sense where we are all in this boat, at least until a COVID vaccine is effectively rolled out.

You Don’t Have To See The Whole Staircase

So, the future can all sound rather depressing and if I allow myself to continue thinking along this path I will never dare to dream, dare to hope, dare to have faith there could be something exciting and exhilarating around the corner.

I love this quote from Martin Luther King Jnr;

You don’t have to see the whole staircase, you just have to take the first step”

That’s it! I just need to step into the 1st January 2021 and take each day one at a time, step by step.

The details, the plans, the hopes, dreams, twists and turns will unravel as I go.

I believe God is ultimately in control. I don’t believe He causes difficult things to happen to us but I do know, by faith, He gives me the strength, resolve and ability to deal with the good, the bad and the downright awful.

It is an uncertain New Year but every New year is like that. Despite the uncertainties I still want it to be a year filled with purpose, filled with love and joy, filled with strength to deal with the difficult times, filled with hope when things seem hopeless.


Looking Back And Ingniting Hope

This year my blog turns 6 and my online support forum will be turning 4 on the 14 the January.

Just before I started both of these ventures, I had a sense of losing purpose in my life due to my health. As 2017 started, I had been  blogging for 2 years and was enjoying it but I wasn’t reaching many people. While I wrote for the love of writing, I also wanted to share my experiences in the hope of helping others with chronic illness.

I couldn’t see anything ahead in 2017 apart from pain, more surgery, pain, repeat.

3 weeks into the year, I had the idea to start an online support forum, Medical Musings With Friends .  It was concerning me so many people, on other support forums, had such complex diseases that didn’t fit neatly into the particular box that these other forums needed ticking. I had an overwhelming sense that chronically ill people needed a broader outlet, where they could share as much or as little as they liked.

I started the forum on the 14th January 2017 and a week later, The Mighty published my first article. I nearly didn’t submit the article because I felt I would be wasting my time, I felt my writing wasn’t good enough. In fact the first submission didn’t work as they had a system failure and I received an email, 3 weeks after I’d forwarded my first article, saying all articles submitted during certain dates must be resubmitted.

I again thought there was little point and was about to delete the email when I suddenly felt, “oh just do it…you’ve got nothing to lose”.

The article was published the next day and resulted in over 1000 likes and countless people reading it and finding both my blog and forum.

The rest as they say is history.

The Purpose Of The Story

My purpose for recounting this story, is so often when I’ve been at the end of my resources and I’ve felt like there is nothing more to life but the painfil circumstances I’ve found myself in….so often it is the moment when amazing things, things beyond my wildest dreams, are about to happen.

In 2017, I just needed to be prepared to take a couple of steps….start the forum in faith believing others would join and not be afraid to submit an article for publication. Those two actions turned future years into purposeful and exciting days, weeks and months.

If you’re sitting at home as New Year’s Eve and New Year’s Day approaches, feeling like you can’t see ahead, don’t lose hope. You are not alone. Chronic Illness can feel all encompassing and does place huge limitations on our lives.

It doesn’t have to make us a prisoner though. We do that to ourselves if we only dwell on what we can’t do, rather than what we can do.

Chronic illness is a part of our life, it’s not all of our lives.

Opportunities can present from the flicker of a quiet thought. Listen to your heart. Listen to those thoughts you think might be challenging you. Life can be exciting and amazing, even from the confines of your home.

Don’t be afraid to explore your ideas, even if you are scared and uncertain. It’s those ideas which cause you to feel a little nervous and excited, that are often the ones worth pursuing. It means they are important to you.

See where they lead. You may be wonderfully surprised.

You don’t have to see the whole staircase, you just have to take the first step”

Sam xx

If you’re looking for genuine support, care, understanding and friendship, you are so welcome to join my closed Facebook support forum, Medical Musings with Friends . It’s a safe place to connect with others living with chronic and complex diseases, who truly understand the daily challenges. A warm welcome awaits.

If you prefer an audible version of more blog posts, please check out my Podcast, Medical Musings With Sam

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5 thoughts on “You Don’t Have To See The Whole Staircase!

  1. I am afraid I do not have much enthusiasm for 2021. I am certain that it will not be worse than 2020 but that seems a low bar. We have always been quiet stay at home new years eve celebrants. We like to have a good kiss, watching times square and waiting to see what the first local commercial will be. furniture and used cars seem to dominate our local watching.

    my bet is on furniture this year.

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  2. Dearest Sam, Hopefulness. Love, Joy, Peace even In the storm. Motivating reflections. Thank you. Pertinent thoughts for everyone! Lovely having Miracle Man home again. He never gave up on believing he’d be Home for Christmas”. Love Lesley love 💕

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    1. Thank you Lesley. There is definitely no place like home and it’s ability to call us too it to be with our loved ones. So glad Peter is home with you where he is meant to be. Love you both xxx


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