No matter what is going on in my life there is always a constant certainty….
A cup of tea fixes everything!
There is something strangely calming about putting on the kettle, taking out a pretty china cup or mug, anticipating sitting in a comfy chair and slowly sipping this hot delight.
It may be coffee, or another beverage for you, but the idea remains the same.
So is it the actual drink, the ritual of making it, or the simple act of breaking the pain cycle, whether physical or mental pain, which causes a cuppa to create a feeling of joyful anticipation?
Let’s Pause For A Moment
For me it’s the whole process. I use my tea making as a pause in my day. I must confess I have many “pauses”.
It’s part of my pacing toolkit. Even the routine of getting dressed takes so much out me. By the time I’ve brushed my teeth, dealt with my stoma, freshened up, put on clean clothes, a little makeup and fixed what’s left of my hair…. I’m done!
The first thing I do is hobble to the kitchen and put the kettle on. If I’m having a really bad day I yell out to my husband from the bathroom;
“Sweetie, I’m nearly finished here and I desperately need a cuppa”
The moment finally arrives. Lowering myself carefully, and painfully, into my armchair and reaching for my cup of tea, always causes a sigh of utter relief to be released from my lips.
This is life at it’s simplest but it’s pure joy to me.
It’s more than just a cup of tea.
It signals it’s time to rest a while. It signals I’ve achieved a task. It signals I need time to think and I’ve created space to muse and order my thoughts.
It is often time shared with my husband, who also needs to pace a little. He’ll join me for a cup of tea or coffee and we’ll sit and chat for a while.
He loves Green Tea or freshly brewed coffee, while I love Yorkshire Gold or English Breakfast tea.
My cup of tea also signals it’s time to write. I’ve recently finished writing my first book based on my blog and my memoirs. It was published in May and is now available for sale.
I remember so clearly when the manuscript was with my publisher for the first stage of editing. I wrote over 71000 words!! It was an epic undertaking for me to write and for my editor to edit. Not surprisingly the whole process was fuelled by cups of tea. Many cups of tea!!
Editing had a second and third phase to ensure we all got it right and even more cups of tea were consumed….along with my favourite French Vanilla Coffee.
Tea With Friends At Home
Long before COVID entered our world, I had a “virtual” life. A life where my friends were online. The concept of “tea with friends” changed for me since my diagnosis of a rare bone disease and subsequent disability.
I love nothing more than sipping my cup of tea while chatting to my online Medical Musings with Friends forum members. It seems fitting to engage in the social act of tea drinking while sharing life stories with my online friends.
I want my blog, my Podcast and my forum, to have the feeling of inviting you to come and sit with me and talk about everything and anything. Just as you would with a best friend or favourite family member. I hope my book will also ignite the same sense of feeling safe, nutured and at home.
There’s the key words…”at home”. A cup of tea and the act of making it, conjures up the feeling of being at home.
As a child I grew up with English parents. I’m sure the humble cuppa was the keystone to our existence. It was engrained in me to put the kettle on, no matter what the circumstance. If we got home from shopping or church, the kettle went on immediately. If we got bad news or good news, the trusty kettle would be boiling within minutes.
I’ve continued this childhood tea making tradition into my own home life and I’m really glad I have. With chronic illness I think chronic tea making is essential. I’m sure it keeps me sane.
Ooh…I can hear the kettle going on. Without me asking my husband has read my mind. He knew I was blogging and he knew what was coming next…..Time for tea!!
I hope you are reading this with a cuppa in hand and if not, please join me in putting the kettle on. Let’s soak up the moment together of anticipating taking time out, to sit, sip and savour for a while.
If you would like an audible version of my blog, please check out my Podcast, Medical Musings With Sam
If you’re looking for genuine support, care, understanding and friendship, you are so welcome to join my closed Facebook support forum, Medical Musings with Friends . It’s a safe place to connect with others living with chronic and complex diseases, who truly understand the daily challenges. A warm welcome awaits.