I can’t believe the 11th November 2020, marks 7 years since my life changing colostomy surgery.
My stoma, affectionately called Rudolph, is now 7 years old!
For those of you without a stoma it may seem a strange thing to celebrate. While it was life changing, it was also life saving and I will be forever grateful for the day of my stoma surgery.
Something About November
There must be something about November and surgery for me. This time last year I was about to undergo yet more lumbar spinal surgery.
It’s funny how your mind begins to think about the logistics of moving post surgery…..or maybe that’s just me. Each time I’m preparing for surgery, I find myself contemplating how I’ll have a catheter when I wake up, how relieved I always am I won’t have to think about using a pan, or getting up before I’m able.
I then realised another reason for being grateful for Rudolph. No bed pans for that end either. Just the convenience of my stoma bag. All areas covered. See, there really are bonuses to every situation if you look for them.
Rudolph and Rosie
One of the things I am definitely celebrating as my 7 year Stomaversary comes around, is the friendships I’ve made in the Ostomate community.
My closed Facebook support forum, Medical Musings with Friends has quite a few members who also have stomas. We share a special bond, a knowing understanding.
Over the years, three of my Administration team members have had stomas, all of us for varying reasons…..Crohns Disease, Ulcerative Colitis and a Non-functioning bowel. Their friendship and understanding means so much to me.
There is one friendship that has always been extra special. We shared the same Surgeon and, without knowing it at the time, our stomas were created only a few days apart.
Our paths crossed through an online stoma forum quite by chance. Our stories were so similar and we clicked instantly. Our friendship blossomed via texts, phone calls and we eventually had the opportunity to meet in person. What a special day that was!
Over the past 7 years we have journeyed through so many highs and lows of life, all as a result of meeting because we had a stoma. We have also laughed, sometimes cried, over their antics. You can click here to read all about Rudolph and Rosie and their adventures!
Blessed With Time To Decide
I was blessed with time to make the decision to have a stoma. While I didn’t have a choice, my Colorectal Surgeon very gently led me through a process, where I could of my own free will say to him “I’m ready, let’s do this”.
Not everyone gets this opportunity. While I’m celebrating a positive health life choice, I also am thinking of those who are still struggling to come to terms with such a radical change to their lives.
Many receive a stoma through emergency surgery due to bowel perforations, a cancer diagnosis and other health scenarios requiring urgent intervention. My heart goes out to those in these situations.
I believe it’s good to take the opportunity to reflect on life changes. It’s important to me to take a moment, to remember what life was like before my stoma and why having it has been such a positive experience.
If you’re interested in “why” Rudolph is a permanent fixture in my life, you can read the full journey in My Stoma Story, A Happy Ending
Happy 7th Birthday Rudolph and thank you for making my life so much better!
If you’re looking for genuine support, care, understanding and friendship, you are so welcome to join my closed Facebook support forum, Medical Musings with Friends . It’s a safe place to connect with others living with chronic and complex diseases, who truly understand the daily challenges. A warm welcome awaits.
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3 thoughts on “Happy 7th Birthday To My Stoma….Otherwise Known As Rudolph”
Stomaversary? 😉 in the diabetes we have diaversary. so why not a Stomaversary? in the diabetes community we go to the ice cream place order a five hot fudge undies and then depart before paying. Heck think woudl could be left behind with a stomaversary? Just thinking out loud.
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Happy Birthday, Rudolph! It’s definitely a strange one to celebrate. I find it difficult because of the reason why I had mine, feeling it shouldn’t have happened, and then obviously having had quite a few problems with my ileostomy since I’ve had it. But you’re absolutely right, there are positives if we look for them. Our stomas give us the chance to live without the problems caused by whatever led us to needing them in the first place. And I’d totally agree on the stoma community, just as I’ve found generally with the chronic illness/pain communities. The connections are priceless, and it’s wonderful you’ve made some priceless friendships, that one in particular. xx
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Thanks Caz. Your right too. No one would ever choose or want a stoma unless we had no choice. It will always have a bitter/sweet side to it.
To a large degree the impacts of my bone disease have been so horrific on my life, my stoma has taken a back seat in terms of my focus, but they are a big deal and I love the advocacy work you do in this space. It’s so important and you are so inspiring xx
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